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Beverly (Stibitz) McGilvra

Born: Fri., Oct. 1, 1937
Died: Sat., Jan. 2, 2021

Graveside Service

2:00 PM Sat., Jan. 09, 2021
Location: Dora Cemetery

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Beverly Anne McGilvra (Stibitz), 83, of West Linn, Oregon passed away peacefully after a 5-year battle with Vascular Dementia.

 Beverly was born in Myrtle Point, Oregon on October 1, 1937 to Paul and Myrle Stibitz.  Even as a young child, Beverly dedicated her life as a caregiver for others, from newborns to the elderly. She graduated from Myrtle Point High School and attended a business college in Eugene until the death of her father caused her return home to work.  She married Billy “Wayne” Phillips in 1959 and moved away to California for new opportunities. Son, David Phillips was born on their sixth wedding anniversary followed by Alan almost two years later in May of 1967. Beverly and Wayne divorced in 1973 and Beverly then married Darrell Bettelyoun in the spring of 1974, moving into her home on 12th St. across from Willamette Park in West Linn. They were married for nine years.

After her second marriage, Beverly spent the next 12 years nannying for many families in the West Linn, Lake Oswego, SW Portland areas. She assisted with caring for children, some household management, and meal preparation.  This is where she parlayed her talents for cooking basic meals of the times into a love and talent for gourmet cuisine.

Following a long period of being single again, she married Paul McGilvra on December 13, 1997. They lived their golden years, remodeling the family home and doing what Beverly loved the most, prolific organic gardening and cooking gourmet meals. Cooking School, a trip to Italy, and catering jobs help bolster her knowledge and capability.  The dream was to have a gourmet cooking kitchen in the new addition to the home.  The kitchen was finally completed but Beverly’s ability to use it had been robbed by her dementia.

Having a sitting room on the front of the house that overlooks Willamette Park at the confluence of the Willamette and Tualatin river, the goal was for Beverly to remain in the home and face her disease progression there. Her loving husband Paul, with the caring assistance of friend Robin De La Forrest, was able to provide that for her until November of 2019 when it became apparent that living in the home was no longer an option. Beverly was moved from her home of 45 years to a wonderful solution that was found just a mile away at Rose Linn Vintage Place where Beverly was cared for and loved by the staff, while our family was excluded due to COVID.  Her recent decline did afford her immediate family an opportunity to visit her a number of times and those special moments are the indelible memories of this past year that we are all choosing to remember.

Beverly is survived by her sons David Phillips (Barbara, wife) of Black Butte Ranch, OR and Alan Phillips (Shin, Husband) of Honolulu, HI, three grandchildren Trevor Phillips, Haley Dameron (Jon, Husband) and Madison Phillips and two great-granddaughters, Taylor and Brynlee Dameron. Her Sisters Rosemary Christensen (Dick, husband) of Cape Fair Mo., Linda Meyer (Charlie, husband) and June Shrum of Myrtle Point, OR, a long list of nieces, nephews, great nieces and nephews, and many unrelated adults who were at one time in her care as children.

She is preceded in death by her husband, Paul Hugh McGilvra, father Paul Jacob Stibitz, mother Myrle Elda Weekly Stibitz, brother Alvin Paul Stibitz and infant sister Helen.  Also preceding were maternal grandparents Isaac Mattson Weekly and Susie Katherine Widby Weekly along with uncles, Oliver, Harold, Ervin and Warren Weekly and aunt Elsie Weekly Fasola. Paternal grandparents Jacob Paul Stibitz and Blanch Mae Brown Stibitz, uncle Albert Stibitz, aunts Lottie Stibitz Waterman and Majorie Stibitz Weekly also all preceded her as well as nephew Dale Lee Shrum.

There will be a graveside gathering on Saturday, January 9, 2021 at the Dora Cemetery, 16 miles outside of Myrtle Point, Oregon at 2pm. All who knew and loved her are welcome.  A larger memorial service will be planned for a later date when we can all get together safely.

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